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Finding Light in the Darkness: Hope in the Abyss of Grief

Updated: Mar 31



For most people, this is a Christmas like no other, but for parents who have recently lost a child or any loved one, it is different for other reasons. They feel lost in the pain of grief that will never end.


But, I would like to share that there is hope. I hope that one day, the immeasurable pain of losing a child will ease. People grieve for many reasons, loss of a spouse or a parent or a sibling. Both of which I have experienced, but the pain of losing Ciara was crippling and far beyond my comprehension.


The first Christmas, I was floating on a facade of going through the motions of living - I was there in body but mentally not present.


The second Christmas was equally as painful. Now, this is our fourth Christmas without Ciara, and I never would have thought I would put up a Christmas tree, look at the lights, and think they are pretty. There was no pleasure in anything in the early days, months, or years of grief.


Yes, some days, I still feel overwhelmed by a complete sense of loss, or I feel someone has punched me, and I think Christ, did that really happen? But it doesn't last.


The madness that grief inflicts is diminishing; sometimes, I do get angry, but it passes, and grief jumps out from the shadows briefly and leaves just as quickly. But I find it hard to say Ciara's name aloud. I can write Ciara's name. I started writing about my pain in the first few months, and then it turned into a Dear Ciara Diary. First, it was to write about my pain, and as time passed, I told her what the family and her friends were doing. I told her about this blasted COVID-19


So, in essence, I want to give hope to grieving parents that the aching pain of grief will ease, that they will laugh again, and will enjoy life. But it does take work and doesn't happen overnight. Getting help by going to a grief counsellor and letting friends and family help. Also, being together as a family.


Remember your loved one this Christmas and every Christmas in a special way that is unique to your child, by having a special decoration for them or lighting a candle #Foreveryoung #Angel


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